A letter to 18 year old Andrew

by agoodnow

I read something that interested me – 

A person wrote a note to herself from ten years ago.   

Here goes:

Dear 18 Year Old Andrew,

There are a few things that you should know as I sit here in New York City at the ripe age of 28.  I have listed them below.  Don’t just skim this.  Actually read it.  Trust me, I know what I’m talking about.

1. That acne is not going away.  Learn to accept that you will never be perfect.

2. Wear your retainer.  Not doing so might end up costing you some money.

3. Do not go to college with your girlfriend.  You have no clue now, but that is going to end very badly for you.  You won’t listen, but don’t say I didn’t warn you.

4. Keep going to the Indy 500 with your Dad.  Yes, it is a pain in the ass, but it makes him happy.  In a few years you will be old enough to drink with him and it will be MUCH more fun.   Besides, one of those years you might be sitting at an airport bar and you could possibly meet one of the most interesting people of your life.  (She might be kind of pretty too)

5.  You know how you like to write?  Do it more often.  Make a habit of writing.  Fill binders.  Never stop.  There will be a time when you want to be able to look back and see what exactly you were thinking.  (If at all)

6. Get involved in more than a fraternity when you get to college. 

7. Travel abroad when you get to college or who knows what might happen?  You might be 28 and writing a letter to yourself from ten years ago, dreaming of moving to Australia.

8. You get depressed.  When you do, don’t lock yourself in a room and drink.  Get outside and take a walk.  Go running.  Do anything you can other than hurt yourself.

9.  You are going to meet a girl named Cary, I’ll let you decide how to proceed, but know this: you will look back and smile……………… whatever happens.

10. You will meet a girl named Julie.  Be nice to her.  She might be one of the best people you will ever meet.

11.  If, by chance, you end up in Utica, NY for a work event.  Take it easy on the tequila shots.

12.  Move dorms your sophomore year of college.   Living next door to an ex is the worst thing that can happen to you.

13. Do not hit walls.  Your right knuckle is throbbing as I type this.

14. Learn how to budget.

15. If you do nothing else,  make sure you keep in touch with your friends.

16. Don’t lift such heavy weights.  Your body wasn’t meant to get big.  Go for a run.

17. If, by chance, you ever get into a heated argument realize that every decision you make has a consequence.  Put your hands in your pockets if you must.

18. That BMW you eye up when you get out of college…..you will be paying for that decision for years to come.  But it is a hell of a car.

19. Don’t get too upset about the Red Sox…………..good things are coming.

20.  Study hard and go to your classes.  Your poor grades will haunt you for a long time.

21. Nothing good happens after 3 am.   Especially in Kansas City. 

22. Don’t worry about how much you make.  Worry about how happy you are.

23. Stop driving so fucking fast

24. Don’t worry, you will end up having sex with more than one girl.

25.  You will never regret moving to New York City.

26. You know those clowns you hang out with from high school?  Fuck em………..they have all betrayed you.   (If you believe that you are as dumb as your high school year book photo looks.  They are still your best friends to this day.)

27. Keep playing golf. 

28. Make sure you are at O’Neil’s on 3rd Ave. in New York City for the Vice Presidential debate in 2008.  Go upstairs and say to a girl at the bar that Sarah Palin is the greatest human the world has ever seen.  Then tell her that Hilary Clinton sucks.  I want to see what happens.  (Don’t wear a nice shirt)

29. Get in touch with your 6th grade English teacher, Mr. Boyle.  He will not be around too much longer and you will regret never thanking him for everything he did for you. 

30. Go visit your cousin Jesse.  In a few years, you’ll see what I mean. 

31. You will live in a house at 137 Courtney St. in Newark, DE……………..you will not regret it (most days)

32. Start a tour guide company if you get the urge to do so.

33. Be yourself.  People will like you for who you are.

34. Stop swearing so much. 

It’s not easy.  You are going to hit highs and lows.  Things will suck.  There are times when you will think things can’t get any worse……………sorry, but they will.  On the bright side,  you are a good kid.  Keep your head up.   You are a work in progress and always will be. There are people who love you out there.  You are going to meet some great individuals along the way.  Give all of them a chance.  Keep an open mind.  Don’t be so quick to judge. 

Smile more. 


AJG – 28 years old – living in New York City